Getting Through the Holiday Season-Emotional Self Care

Two gingerbread cookies with worried and stressful looks on their faces and dismemberment

When you look at someone’s eyes, peering out above their mask, what do you see? Sometimes a smile, but many times it is the look of worry.

Joblessness and uncertainty have turned to anxiety. Worry has been termed the “official emotion of this year.” Worry is also the most pervasive psychological problem of our time. Worry robs us of joy. Worry is the negative thought that pulls tomorrow’s clouds over today’s sunshine.

Traditional gatherings during the holiday season bring families closer but can also be stressful. However, this year will be much different due to the spread of COVID, and while the pandemic is responsible for some of the stress, it is not entirely at fault.

The warmth of a hug or the touch of a hand has gone the way of fist bumps and six feet of separation. Suspiciously we guard our protected space.

Dealing With Emotions

We all know what it takes to care for the health of our body, exercise, diet, and sleep. Unfortunately, very few of us understand what it takes to care of our emotions. Instead, many of us completely ignore and try to push our feelings to the back of our minds in the hope that they will disappear.

It is important to realize that Emotion has a substantial influence on humans’ cognitive processes, including perception, attention, learning, memory, reasoning, and problem-solving.

Poor emotional health can weaken your body’s immune system, making you more likely to get colds—or worse yet—COVID-19. When you feel stressed, anxious, or upset, you don’t take care of the rest of your health, and you should.

Thankfully, there are steps that we can all take to take better care of our emotions.

  1. Allow yourself to feel – the most important step to emotional self-care is allowing yourself to feel and experience the emotions that come to you.
  2. Know your emotional triggers – Once you allow yourself to sit with your emotions, you will become much more familiar with them, and you will start to observe patterns. Once you understand what causes you to be sad or angry, you will know how to reduce negative emotions. 
  3. Put your own needs first — When we have other people who depend on us, we often neglect to take care of ourselves. Switching your focus to yourself is the best thing you can do, not only for yourself but for others.
  4. Learn to say NO – We often try to take on too much responsibility, causing pressure and stress. 
  5. Practice Meditation — Regular Meditation can help increase resilience in difficult situations and make you react to your emotions less often.
  6. Take up a craft – Studies by the Harvard Medical School, The Relaxation Response, show that an increasing number of people are turning to crafting, due to its relaxing nature, to improve their mental health.
  7. Start a journal – Journaling is a fantastic way to release your emotions and gain understanding.
  8. Ask for help – Sometimes, we just need to accept that we cannot do everything alone.
  9. Do something you love each day — You would be surprised at how much better you feel just by doing something you enjoy.
  10. Mistakes are not failure – Understanding that mistakes are a learning opportunity and not a failure, can help you grow and become better and not weigh so heavily on your mind. 
  11. Create a playlist of calming music – Music is a great way to relax your body and your mind, which will, in turn, soothe your emotions. You can even create a playlist for each type of mood. 
  12. Exercise—Even short walks through a park or around the neighborhood can help you clear your mind and benefit your overall health.
  13. Practice gratitude – By appreciating your accomplishments, friends, and current status, you can feel better about yourself and set your mind toward future successes.

The cases of COVID-19 infections are increasing, so self-quarantining is making relationships even more distant. Social media has become the mainstay of social interaction and in this day of mindless Facebook likes and text messages, human emotions have been narrowed down to a handful of emojis.

Even though person to person meetings are more complicated, we still have our voice. While it is a bit old-fashioned, talking on the telephone is still an excellent form of communication. The warmth in the tone of your voice and the inflection in your speech can convey love, empathy, excitement, and all of the emotions in between, that will let family members and friends know that you care and are there for them if the need arises.

At Business Finance Corporation, we work to be your partner in success. Together, we will get through the holidays and this pandemic. If your business balance sheet is heavy on the receivables side and light on cash, let us help. We can provide immediate cash and assist in collecting your receivables. Go to or call 702-947-3800.